** Friends **

There is another entry from today. Please visit my previous entry too.

There is a woman at my work with whom i'd consider myself pretty close. She's in her early 50's, divorced, two kids, a handful of grandkids, and an on-again/off-again boyfriend. He lives in AZ and they haven't really seen each other in a while. He wants the relationship to be more serious than she does. We talk a lot and i give her grief about being old and she teases me for being young/dumb. It's fun.

Anyway "g-ma" tells me today that "AZbf" emailed her and wants to go to dinner. She also tells me that she "just wants to be friends" with the guy. So i tell her she needs to tell him that. Don't hint, don't suggest; TELL him. My ex wasn't completely honest with me when our relationship ended (she may have been but when i look back at certain things she said and did, i begin to wonder,) so i told g-ma that she needs to be honest with AZbf. She owes him that at least. Men hate the friend speech, but what they hate even more is being led on. If you're not interested in him, let him know. "That way he'll know it's officially time to switch from pursuing mode to stalking mode," i told her. We laughed.

But seriously ladies, if you're not interested, don't beat around the bush, don't try to go easy on him or spare his feelings. He'll respect you more if you're honest with him. Not mean, just honest.

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